An Interview With Phil LaDuke

We are what we create. My work and building the things I cared most about kept me sane, and it is also an exercise in acting on my values and creating things I want to exist in the world. Making podcasts (both scripted and unscripted) for my clients and my company KingdomofPavement.com helped me find connections with collaborators all over the world. I love bringing beautiful audio creations to life because they help us all feel a little less lonely. The other week, I met up with some old friends and we’re going to be collaborating on a tech app…


An Interview With Phil LaDuke

Hold on to what matters, and let go of what does not: I had quite a few friends and family separate and divorce because of the pandemic, and I think it is actually a positive thing. People realized that they were staying together only because it was comfortable, not because it was right, and the pandemic forced them to realize that. On the other side, I saw relationships plunge into new depths of love and devotion because the world no longer could keep two people apart so easily.

With the success of the vaccines, we are beginning to see the…


An Interview With Phil LaDuke

Hugs are critical to my mental health. When anyone asked me what the first thing was that I was planning to do when the pandemic was over, my immediate response was “hug people.” When my kids asked whom I’d hug, my answer was, “whoever happened to be walking by the house!” Before COVID struck, I didn’t realize quite how much comfort, solace, and relief I felt from regular physical interactions with my friends, neighbors, and family. Being forced to stand 6 feet apart from loved ones left me with a physical craving akin to pain in my body. Just recently…


An Interview With Phil LaDuke

Focus on reliable news sources and limit screen time / social media intake. A large amount of news consumption these days is driven by smartphones and social media, and the well-known BBC app alert delivers the latest updates to you, ensuring you’re never far from the latest news. While the BBC is a reliable and serious provider of journalism, I would argue that in high uncertainty situations as experienced last year, a little amount of news will keep you updated but a continuous amount of news is likely to make you anxious. Unless you are an ICU doctor, there is…


Being intentional- about time, use of resources, working out, being productive, staying in contact. Having endured a long distance marriage for four odd years, I thought I was a maestro on the whole intentionality thing. The stay at home orders surely tested that! My wife and I took moments to further develop our intimacy by reading a book together, getting creative with date nights and taking romantic strolls. As my wife would often say, conflict is an invitation into greater intimacy and we were both intentional in using the time to strengthen our bids for connection. …


An Interview With Phil LaDuke

When in doubt, dance it out. For me, dancing is one of the best ways to get a present. It is really hard to be stressed while also dancing. It’s a universal language, available to us at all times for free, and there is no right or wrong way to do it. For the first month of the pandemic, I hosted a one-minute dance party every day at 1 p.m. on Zoom. I also joined this dance community called 5 Rhythms that hosts weekly outdoor silent discos. We each have our own headset and we meet in a park or…


An Interview With Phil LaDuke

Accept your reality: The pandemic has been lonely, and as an entrepreneur, I found the experience to be isolating. While I believe in fighting hard for what you want, it’s also okay to admit when things are hard. Just because something is hard doesn’t mean you can’t overcome it, but saying it out loud can help you accept where you are. When you’re not about to go out and partake in normal activities, that’s hard. It’s okay to admit that.

With the success of the vaccines, we are beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel of…


An Interview With Phil LaDuke

Trust your gut. When I made the first floral heart, I had no idea what I was doing BUT I knew that doing it was important. The first heart I laid, I thought I was going to get arrested. But, I saw someone run by, turn around, and kneel in front of it. I knew that it changed their day and that was important. Later the more I made, the more people responded to it. And, I was so thrilled I had trusted myself.

With the success of the vaccines, we are beginning to see the light at the end…


An Interview With Phil LaDuke

I progressively put in place a new modus operandi: take the time as an open-ended parameter, keep the focus on process and daily tasks rather than on results, making things that matter here and now, rather be frustrated by the past or scared by the future. EXAMPLE: Especially the first few months when uncertainty was hitting the sky. I’ve just listed all cleaning tasks at home, and do it step by step, not caring about how many times it would take to clean windows or range my bookshelves, etc. …


An Interview With Phil LaDuke

…How it’s possible to bring about radical change, quickly. In a matter of weeks, the busy doings of our lives literally stopped. I looked up at a sky clear of vapor trails, construction noises silenced, no cars on the road. CO2 emissions suddenly reduced. Just. Like. That. The impossible suddenly became possible.
Prior to the pandemic, many had called for radical behavior change for our species and it seemed totally impossible. And ye the pandemic showed we can do it if it is literally a matter of life and death. Anything is possible after all. …

Phil La Duke

Author of “I Know My Shoes Are Untied. Mind Your Own Business” and “Lone Gunman. Rewriting the Handbook on Workplace Violence Prevention” and “Blood on my hands

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